Hypnotherapist Alex Evans talks about the fear and misconceptions surrounding hypnosis.
There is no such thing as perfection in life but if there were it would be a beautiful new born baby, yet to be exposed to an imperfect world run by imperfect people. Children are born with inquisitive minds, eager to absorb information, fearlessly explore and learn new things. Anything is possible to a young child.
As they grow children are exposed to their carers imperfections and introduced to the rules of life, that they have to obey. ‘You must behave like this and you can’t do that.’ Like sponges they absorb information from those around them, their well meaning carers unwittingly programming them with their own fears. Up until 5 years old children are allowed to fall over, spill drinks and use the wrong words but then they go to school where mistakes are frowned upon and they are exposed to their peers judgement.
The innocence of childhood now becomes a distant thing of the past. They only have a few years of experience to make sense of the world and face up to the slings and arrows fired at them from life.
It really is no wonder that lots of peoples problems and bad beliefs began in those early years where the majority of your life worth of experience was learned. They say that by the time a child is aged 5 they have learned about 60% of their lives worth of knowledge so its hardly surprising that this is where most peoples issues started. Two of the biggest issues that cause people problems are perfectionism and people pleasing.
The only problem is that most people’s memories don’t go back that far and conventional talk therapies don’t have access to those early childhood memories, but hypnotherapists can, using hypnotic age regression techniques.
If you are interested in finding out more about hypnotherapy and how it can help you with bad beliefs and habits why don’t you contact me, Alex on 07899886882 or message me from the contact page.
At the beginning of the Covid 19 pandemic, my business like many others stopped instantly! If you rely on seeing people face to face social distancing and fear will do that.
I thought as the virus attacked the lungs many smokers would be motivated to quit as they will need them working effectively if they were infected. So I advertised smoking cessation on line at a very affordable price expecting a flurry of phone calls.
To my surprise, the response was Lukewarm at best! It wasn’t about the cost it was the belief that it was too late, so no point in stopping now, I’ll leave it to fate.
In hindsight, I probably shouldn’t have been surprised. I have used hypnosis for smoking cessation since I began practicing with varying success. I worked out after a couple of years of trying different approaches but the results depended more on my clients motivation than on my skill as a hypnotherapist. Most smokers wanted me to quit for them but unfortunately, change always has to come from within.
Now when I get asked to help someone quit smoking I always ask this question. “Honestly, out of 10, how much do you really want to quit?” Most say 7! They don’t really like it but it relaxes them and they worry a little about their health in the future. I tell them to go away and come back when they are a 10! If they honestly say they are a 10 and really want to quit, I help them.
Theres nothing good about smoking so stop kidding yourself. If you smoke, everything around you stinks, your breath, your clothes, your car etc etc. It’s really bad for your health and takes years off your life! It’s also really expensive!
Quitting smoking is easy if you are motivated, so if you are a 9 or a 10 give me a call and I’ll help you to stop.
Life is full of ups and downs. We enjoy the highs of life, hopefully appreciating them but at some points things will go wrong and we are then faced with adversity. We may lose someone close to us, a relationship may fail, or we might have to face a challenge in our working lives.
For many, these challenges can be worked through using past experiences or with the help of friends and family. But sometimes this is not enough. The challenge may be too much to bear or an answer cannot be found by applying the experiences of the past.
Some try to ease the pain with medication, some by seeking the professional help of a counsellor. But what if that doesn’t work and you still feel terrible?
Usually when a person gets to this point and nothing is changing, or the feelings are getting worse it indicates that there is a deeper psychological belief that lyes below conscious awareness.
It may surprise you to learn that the answers to most people’s problems lye in their past. Behavioural problems come from negative past experiences. This is where hypnotherapy becomes useful. When a person is hypnotised, a good hypnotherapist can guide them to where these negative beliefs are held within the subconscious mind and help them to reprocess them.
So, if you have reached an impasse, maybe you need to look into what hypnotherapy can do for you.
If you have any questions relating to hypnotherapy or anxiety related issues, please fill in the question boxes below and have a look through my website.
Are you dreading your child’s return to school?
For many parents September can’t come quick enough. Family holidays are over and done with and entertaining restless children has taken its toll on their sanity. But there are parents out there who are dreading their child’s return to school.
Many children broke up from school last term suffering from anxiety and panic attacks caused by not fitting in, low self esteem, performance worries, exam stress etc. Some will be worried about moving up to high school or sixth form, college or university.
Resiliency to pressure and change varies from one child to the next. Most get through education relatively unscathed but for many, especially the sensitive ones getting through it is torturous.
Unfortunately once the ‘feeling’ mind gets involved in a negative way, fear takes over and the problems begin. These problems can extend for years and seldom get better on their own. There is very little help and advice for families with an anxious child and long weights to see wellbeing counsellors. Some children even have to be medicated to function at home and at school.
So what do I do if I need help?
If you recognise these difficulties in your child there is a therapy called Hypnotherapy that deals with the feeling and automatic parts of the subconscious mind where anxieties are generated. There are lots of pages on my website that explain anxiety, panic attacks and self esteem problems in more detail. Also there is a page with FAQ’s about Hypnotherapy and hypnosis.
“I would recommend Alex as a hypnotherapist without hesitation. My daughter (just turned 18) had a range of issues including anxiety, depression and quite debilitating panic attacks. With her A levels impending I thought that Hypnotherapy would be of some use to her; I envisualised her learning some coping strategies for stress-inducing situations.
But her sessions with Alex have achieved so much more than that; her burdens seem to have been permanently lifted. It has transformed her life and her self confidence. She faced her A levels with equanimity and impressively when she did have a minor wobble she was able to face it down and move on.
We are extremely grateful to Alex”